How to Money · Monday, July 6, 2026
A listener is struggling with a partner's expensive hobby (guns) and seeks advice on how to handle the disagreement. Hosts suggest prioritizing open, kind communication about moral objections and financial impact before escalating to marriage counseling. They also noted the importance of personal 'blow money' within a budget for individual pursuits.
“So my partner, married twenty three plus years, is starting to go down a path towards a hobby that I very much do not support for several reasons, and is aware of my feelings on the subject.”
“But this wouldn't necessarily be my first recommendation. And so it sure sounds like this is less about the money that's going to be spent on this hobby. You're in money, you're seven, you said, and more about maybe the moral disagreement of that chosen hobby, although of course buying guns and going to the range can get expensive really quick.”
“But I still think it's important to have a certain amount of blow money. That's what we call it, and like on our budget it's just Matt money, cap money, it's our blow money.”